Modernism

How many centuries do we need to live to become modern? 

If living in the 21st century is considered modern to you then in what graphic? Are we modern because we have fancy outfits to wear? Are we modern because we hold various human rights? Are we modern because we have more freedom than ever before? Are we modern because we live in a democratic world? Are we modern because we enjoy equal working rights? Are we modern because there are enough women’s protection rights? 

Where do we see ourselves living in the modern world?  Are we modern because of technology and advancements in science? Are we modern because of our interconnectedness with each other? Are we modern because of our global outlook on life?

We are in an era of artificial intelligence, so it’s even more pragmatic to call ourselves modern. Right? 

Modernism, Personal Space and Change

There is no doubt that people who bring major changes from technology to medicine to transportation have an evolutionary mindset. For example, people who create AI applications and bring technological advancement to the world can definitely call themselves modern. Well it’s not just about AI, or any new evaluation happening around the world. It’s about people who say they are living in the modern world, but actually living a very dull, old fashioned life at their mind level. The fact that they are old fashioned does not mean they are unqualified. They are qualified people working in different fields, but illiterate about change. The change is not always about adopting technological advancement. People are becoming very good at it. I am talking about behavioural change. I am talking about people’s behaviour with their partner in their personal space. Let me illustrate it with an example. When a woman and a man come to office, they keep all human rights in mind, and behave each other with dignity. Right? Women and men behave appropriately as they should. However, as soon as they reach their homes, their behaviour changes drastically. That’s what I meant by “change in people’s behaviour when they are in their personal space.” 

Modernism and Adaptability

In the olden days, when life was simple, only one man worked was enough to feed the whole family. A woman was expected to take care of the kids and family. Life was simple and clear. All duties were understood like when husband used to come home from work, he was served food on the table by his wife and he was not supposed to interfere in  any household chores. Quite understandable. Then gradually, when we moved to the modern era that we refer to as the 21st century, where husband and wife both must be employed to meet their family needs, we are still unable to be progressive. Why? Since women have changed and adopted this modern society, they have become able to step out of the house with confidence and work equally as a man in this fast-paced era, if not more than a man. Almost all women work professionally these days. On the other hand, if you ask a man about handling the kitchen, kids, the house, how competent are they? On one hand, we want to compete. On the other hand, we don’t want to share responsibilities at home. After professional work, no matter how exhausted a woman gets, when she gets home, she cooks. This is even if her husband is at home taking a day off from work, exceptions are always there. 

Modernism and Mindset

Will modernism encompass only different evolutions? Or will it also cover everyday tasks where both husband and wife contribute equally?

Modernism and Respect

Let’s talk about respect. The act of sharing hands in the house or outside is one thing, but respect is another. Still there are families where boys are educated, but when it comes to satiating their families false ego, they behave not less than an uneducated person. For example, in such cases as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law’s day-to-day arguments, if a husband wants, he can become logical and respectful towards both. Being modern, he shouldn’t behave with his wife in an ignorant manner. He must be educated enough to understand that if a woman is respected at home, she is respected in the world. I’m not suggesting one should overlook their mothers after marriage. All I am trying to say is that husbands should not allow their wives to feel disrespected in front of their moms.  

Modernism and Intentions

Sadly in some cases, not only do husbands treat their wives badly, but they also treat them inhumanely. In the olden days, where a man had more power over a woman, she often tolerated things she was not supposed to tolerate. It often used to happen because, at first women were not well educated and not employed and so used to count on their husbands for their financial needs. Right? In today’s modern era, circumstances have changed. Women have become more independent than ever before, but yet they are not treated with dignity in their own homes as they should be.

Modernism and an Evolved Husband

A modern educated husband will never hold such mindsets as “my mom is my mom and she is always right”. Instead, a modern educated husband will have good communication skills at home. He would know how, when, and where to open his mouth. He would understand his wife’s respect is his own respect. He would know that respecting his wife doesn’t mean he is disrespecting his mother. Instead, he will be willing to bridge the gap and help them understand each other. He would understand what a loveable relationship actually means. 

A modern husband is all about respect and equality! With a simple act of kindness, like helping out around the house or treating your wife with dignity, you create a beautiful and peaceful space where she feels confident and valued. Step up, gentlemen, and let’s redefine what it means to be modern!